Reportedly Kushboo has commented to a magazine that “it was fine for girls to indulge in premarital sex after taking care to keep unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases at bay”. In affect she is saying that it is fine to have premarital sex but just take care not to land in trouble.
It is not an Indian way to have premarital sex. It is contrary to Indian culture and beliefs in which man and woman both want to remain a virgin until marriage. Excepting some city dwellers, in India people believe that it is wrong to have sex before marriage.
That’s not an advise an elderly and responsible Indian would like to give it to the younger Indians. She might have forgotten the fact that abstinence is one of the best ways to keep diseases and pregnancies at bay before marriage.
Later she justified her statement by saying that no educated man could expect his partner to be a virgin. This is another malformed thought process. Reacting to this, political parties and many other respected people in society retorted that her remarks are against Tamil values and culture.
On the condition that it was her personal opinion; anything goes. However when she airs it to all Indians through a widely red news media, people are rightly resenting as that’s not what ordinary Indian believes.
Case against Kushboo adjourned to Oct 5 - Chennai Online, India.
I agree with the previous comment. I think the author is living in the past.
Pre-marital sex (as well as other sexual and physical abuses) has existed for a long long time in India. The only difference is that now people are more open about it.
For me, the main reason behind this is the assertivness of men to 'prove' themselves as being sexually potent.
but in the end, the women is blamed because men cant keep their you-know-what in their pants.
We are living in a modern world where information should be freely available.
I think it is time to stop fooling ourselves and admit to what happens in society.
Failure to do so (and to continue to keep younger people in the dark about contraception and sexually related diseases)will lead to a huge social problem for the country in the future.
Posted by: Vishnu | Oct 18, 2005 at 01:20 PM
>> Excepting some city dwellers, in India people believe that it is wrong to have sex before marriage.
- This statement is completely wrong. May be the author has not seen the villages in this country. Pre marital sex exist in villages too... People may believe that it is wrong to have sex before marriage, but they do not practice it.
Posted by: Hari | Sep 30, 2005 at 04:19 PM